I was speaking to a long time friend about our recent cancer diagnosis-es. We have known each other for about 20 years and both recently began our journeys as cancer survivors.
We both were struck how our lives had been redefined by cancer as we gabbed, catching up and discussing the latest about our conditions.
When we met 20 years ago neither of us knew the word metastasize or five year survival rate or waiting for the day you could say you were cancer free… Neither of us knew the side effects of surgery to remove tumors, chemotherapy or radiation. Now people ask us questions about these things and want our opinions.
I called my friend at the dinner hour. 20 years ago I would have said “I know its dinner time and you need to feed your family but I just wanted to say hi, lets talk soon.” or she would have said “I have to get dinner on the table, can we talk later?”
But we have been redefined. Life is short. Dinner can wait but friendships can’t.
Not a tattoo but a compression sleeve and glove to combat lymphedema.
Lymphedema was caused by damage from my cancer treatments. I have to wrap my arm like this every night, applying compression to my arm to keep the accumulation of lymph fluid from swelling my arm into a scary huge mess:
Compression is 24-7. During the day it is sleeves and gloves. The sleeves and gloves suggested by my physical therapist are the same color and ugly as heck. Note the seams on the fingers, makes typing a chore.
Discouraged I scoured the internet to find alternatives. Ta-da! LympheDivas, a comfortable and fun alternative.
Imagine you are told you have a condition that requires lifetime treatment. The supplies you need are simple, some are expensive, but necessary to control your condition. And then you find out your treatment supplies are consumed very quickly and must be replaced constantly. And none of those supplies are covered by insurance. And finally you realize if you don’t pay for all these supplies your condition will deteriorate and get worse.
There are many causes of lymphedema. It touches people of all ages.
You can’t cheat lymphedema. It can affect a famous actress, different cancer survivors, the soldier who suffered a terrible trauma, a child with a genetic or inherited issue. It’s with you forever. Don’t follow your treatment? Serious complications will follow.
I will need to wrap my arm like this every night for the rest of my life.
Some of the supplies I need every day, these are a just a portion and these along with the rest are not covered by my insurance, there are much more not pictured here. I spoke with my physical therapist about why some people let their lymphedema get out of control. Came to light that perhaps they could not afford all of the supplies. Homeless? Have to choose between your lymphedema supplies and paying your rent or mortgage or groceries? The truth is my insurance pays for none of the supplies I need to keep my lymphedema under control! They pay for a portion of one sleeve and glove each year that is my daytime therapy (I’ll need at least 2 or 3 each year minimum if I am really careful). I am not alone, another lymphedema sufferer I know is in the same boat as I am. We both have jobs so we are not going to sink but that boat next to us is sinking.
I am getting my lymphedema under control and was just measured for my first sleeve and glove that I’ll wear during the day. My insurance is not covering all of this and the supplier called me to make sure I knew my out-of-pocket was quite hefty and not part of my deductible and I was responsible for this uninsured portion.
Lymphedema is a swelling caused by excess fluid. Cancer patients can get lymphedema because lymph nodes are damaged or removed during surgery and damaged by radiation. Lymphedema becomes uncomfortable and limits movement as it progresses.
Treatment? The therapists through my current insurance are booked weeks out. As lymphedema progresses it can cause tissue damage and other permanent damage. Waiting weeks for some relief was not an option. I increased the exercises for stimulating lymphatic system and added a manual lymphatic drainage (light self-massage) to reduce the swelling. I was unaware of this simple technique until a friend told me about it.
The results? Swelling reduced and movement almost back to normal. Much more comfortable. Since I was previously doing the exercises, I believe the light self-massage was the thing that reduced the swelling so dramatically.
At the preliminary therapy appointment I was told that my insurance did not provide any massage or self-massage techniques. I was told that the self-massage probably did not help. If I wanted to continue self-massage to go ahead because it probably didn’t hurt anything.
My first therapy appointment to learn how to do the compression bandaging designed to reduce swelling? Two more weeks.
The interesting thing about this self-massage is the light touch used. One therapist described it as pushing a dime across your skin. It is just a suggestion to your tissues to wake up and get that fluid moving. Anything more aggressive is a no-no!
As I travelled the cancer journey with my husband I first experienced the emotions of cancer. Being recently diagnosed with stage II breast cancer I am now traveling my own journey. The emotions of the caregiver and cancer survivor are similar for me but each a two sided coin. Not allowing my husband’s journey to overwhelm mine, well there is the key to my journey.
What? What does all this mean? Medical terms, your life is out of control and not your own anymore.
Accepting the fact that you or someone you care about has cancer. Becoming strong and moving forward.
Why is this happening?
Fear and Worry
How am I going to handle this financially? How am I going to handle this physically? How am I going to handle this alone?
Stress and Anxiety
Reliving all that happened before. My husband had a difficult time. Realizing that what I am going to experience is not the same, not as difficult, as what my husband experienced.
Sadness and Depression
Watching a loved one fade away. What will my journey be like? No energy and always tired. Not myself at all.
Did I cause my cancer? Cancer just happens.
As I tried to support my husband and now deal with different emotions.
Hey my dogs make me smile all the time. This peach tastes amazing! That dandelion flower is kind of pretty. Swimming with my friends makes me happy. I love the summer festivals! It looks like I am going to be okay after treatment!